For the Love of Men Podcast

Dating can be an amazingly transformative process.

It is a natural environment to practice (in real-time) learning a new way of being, healing old emotional wounds, and communicating in a way that honors your uniqueness so that you can attract the best fit for you.

If you’ve been in the relationship coaching space, you may be familiar with the concept of polarity- all of us have two poles, Masculine to Feminine, like a magnet- the “goal” is to find your reciprocal match.

(This is what creates the undeniable attraction and the more awareness you bring to identifying and supporting your natural “place” on this spectrum, the more effortlessly you will attract a compatible partner).

It’s a little more complicated than this in reality.

Between Feminism, the “Me Too” movement, and the confusing messages handed down from generations past about the opposite sex (“men are…” “you need to find a woman like….”) that both men and women are trying to use to navigate new terrain, it’s natural that many are defended simply as a result of being unsure how to connect in a way that feels true to themselves.

These were parts of our stories too.

Bri and I spent collective years in the dating pool, learning about relationships and feminine energy principles to discover what “works” (i.e. promotes connection) and what doesn’t.

Eventually, we were confronted with the one thing that was really holding us back (or not helping, to say the least) from the deep, intimate, polarizing partnerships we’ve been wanting: our own- not so helpful, or accurate- view of men.

Trust me when I say, it’s really difficult to want to be vulnerable (a requirement for an intimate/romantic relationship) with someone when there’s an undercurrent of general distrust or resentment.

Most of us come by these beliefs honestly; through direct or indirect experiences, we have built a case against the opposite sex without our conscious awareness and then expect them to respond the way *we* would.

Each time they don’t, it is perplexing but confirms our theory and justifies our retreat from emotional transparency.

But what if good men weren’t so rare? What if they wanted to build what we wanted to build? And what if there is a way they think that is very different from our own?

These were the new questions we were asking ourselves on dates.

This shift in perspective changed the game and we’ve been talking about it every time we get together.

What we now know is that it’s possible for women to see men in their most natural state and not feel afraid of them or the need to manipulate so her needs would be met…

And that men, when they are able to act according to their own integrity (without our “help” ), see women in a way that naturally energizes them and inspires their best work in the world.

“Scary” conversations and situations feel less dire when men and women are able to see each other and communicate in an empowered way.

This is when both partners get to shine and transformation really happens through relationships.

It’s since been our experience that each person you practice *this* way of being with, each time you hold your boundaries when you used to push them to the side, and every “hard” conversation you have makes you that much more available to partner with the person you’ve been dreaming about.

As we become more and more clear on how men differ from women, it allows us to trust each other more and have fewer unmet expectations/needs.

And the more we trust them to show up based on this new theory, the “better” they behave toward us… without strategies and dating tips.

Instead of reacting from a wounded POV, we can choose a more empowered/empowering way of navigating that actually sets the other person up to win too.

Through the natural differences, we fell in love with men in a new way and came to a deeper acceptance of ourselves as women.

This is why we created For the Love of Men Podcast- to help translate the language of men and women into paradigm-shifting ways of being that leave both people feeling seen and empowered so they can create the sticky, undeniable polarity that emotionally healthy partners are looking for.

We want to help other people learn how to recognize and honor another person’s natural “place” on the masculine/feminine spectrum so they can experience their best and create the polarized relationships they deeply desire.

We share our own practical experience, advanced training/expertise, and favorite tools to navigate various points in the dating process with more mutual compassion and self-awareness, and less reactivity.

Dating takes courage, and it’s time to give the dating pool a reframe so that courage can be used most effectively… being more authentic.

Join us in For the Love of Men Podcast to hear two women’s views on dating, relationships, and masculine/feminine dynamics that create the healthiest, most fulfilling connections.

Available on Spotify and Apple Podcast.

You might also like my free masterclass “Why Speaking ‘Femininely’ Doesn’t Work”. I’ve learned there’s a difference between what we think we are saying and how men hear it. So much of the breakdown is less in what we say and more in what’s actually happening. Let me know where to send the Masterclass below. I hope it helps!